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This is your gap year, the year between your fourteen birthday and fifteenth, between eighth grade and high school, between girlhood and young womanhood.
Born in late November, you, like your father and me, are one to two years younger than your classmates, a gap that was barely noticeable when you were in early middle school, but that has become much more apparent as you enter your teens. This year abroad will help you bridge that gap, entering high school at the same age as your peers.
This is the story of how you became a dog person. Some people are dog people; some are cat people. You started out a cat person, much to the dismay of your father and me.
At eleven, you have already traveled extensively: Tahoe, New York, London, Spain, Hawaii, Iceland. This summer we visited friends who live in the woods on the outskirts of Oslo.
Our first day you are charmed to take part in a Norwegian custom of a breakfast barbeque right on the windy beach, the sound of the water lapping counterpoint to the crackling fire. We make pancakes in a cast iron pan, the batter thick with blueberries we’ve picked from the back yard that same morning.
Last Saturday you took a sort of entrance examination for sixth grade. There were 70-some odd kids applying for about 15 spots. As part of your day of tests and participation, the kids were asked to come up with an invention, and explain how it would work.
“So what did you invent?” I asked.
“A transporter,” you responded. “So I wouldn’t have to get up early for school. I could just be transported in two minutes before the homeroom bell rings…..”
We’re walkers, your dad and I – fast walkers. We pound along at twice the speed of most people, often breaking apart to flow around the sidewalk slowpokes without breaking stride or conversation.
A flashing crosswalk signal is like a red flag we can’t resist charging; if the light is green and we’re thirty feet from the corner we’ll break into a simultaneous run as if the signal light emits some sort of warning siren that only we can hear. We never jaywalk, preferring instead to jayrun, something I can do as expertly in high heels as flats…..
We’re a bunch of late babies, the h and me and little one three. Our birthdays are within 30 days of Christmas, more or less. The downside of this is not getting your fair share of birthday booty AND Christmas booty, but getting the dreaded combo booty….
Go ahead, sing to her, he said, but I hesitated. We got along well, you and I, but I felt like an intruder in these nightly rituals. I am unused to the bedtime rituals of love, security and affection. I am from a different place than you. My bedroom was a place of both refuge and punishment, my bed a place to hide from the tears and the fears that, both real and imagined, chased me into uneasy sleep…..
We had a big weekend, you and I. We went skiing in Tahoe, where hopefully we will continue to own a cabin by the time you are old enough to want to read this.
Your dad is an expert and has always had high hopes that his joy and passion for this sport are something you have inherited from him. He has never pushed you, not once, not even a little..but the hope was there……
This weekend was our first family trip – me, the h, you, the step sister who lives in Miami.
Or, as the flight attendant called us, mom and dad and their two girls. That was fun to hear – my first time being referred to as mom…..
I’ve been a runner all of your life and much of mine. It’s hard to believe I’ve been doing it so long – almost five of your lifetimes.
“I’m going for a run” is a pronouncement I make frequently. Sometimes because, like now, I am training for a specific race. Other times because it is a beautiful day and I want to be out in it. Most times, because I just like to do it, whether for 45 minutes or four hours…..